How To Reduce Pain During Sex

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If you have prostatitis, you may experience pain during sex or after ejaculating. It can be very frustrating to have something that is supposed to be pleasurable cause pain instead. This can also be an embarrassing issue that can affect your relationships, but it needn’t be because you are not alone in facing this problem. If you keep an open mind and seek help you will find that there are several natural and alternative therapies that can help reduce pain during sex and related to sexual activity.

First of all, don’t suffer alone with your problem. Talk to you partner so you can work through this challenge together. Talk to your health care provider, and be honest with your therapist. They may have suggestions and exercises that can help you overcome this frustrating problem. There are also some short-term pain medications you doctor can prescribe, but look to more natural long-term solutions as well.

Physical Rehabilitation and Exercises

The most common cause of male pelvic pain is related to a pelvic floor dysfunction, whether it due to a pelvic floor muscle weakness or spasm. The pelvic floor is made up of a complex set of connective tissues, nerves, and the muscles that supports the penile area, prostate, bladder, and intestines. When these muscles are weak or dysfunctioning, they can be further aggravated by stress and anxiety. Having something going wrong in the bedroom (such as pain during sex) understandably can increase stress and anxiety, further exacerbating the problem.

A pelvic floor therapist can help you find the right treatment and exercises that may help. Men locate the source of their pain and work on personalized treatment programs they can learn to do in the privacy of their home that may involve yoga poses, stretches, therapy balls, or other tools, some of which may be inserted rectally. You can get more information on how to pursue this type of therapy here.

Exercise in general is helpful for reducing prostatitis symptoms. Other exercises men may find especially helpful include tai chi, yoga, and activities that help reduce stress such as meditation.


There is a long history of using acupuncture to treat sexual problems and improve male sexual health. Acupuncture helps to reduce stress, reduce pain, and promote healing. Acupuncture encourages the body to maintain muscle tone and blood flow to the genital area. The good news is that the needles are not going into the penis or genital area.


Phytotherapy is a natural way to manage sexual pain. Phytotherapy involves combining two supplements that support prostate health, quercetin and bee pollen extracts. They are often combined with probiotics to help restore gut health. Both bee pollen and quercetin are anti-inflammatories and both have many successful clinical studies and research that supports their effectiveness in helping with pain in prostatitis patients. Phytotherapy has gained attention in the medical community, with the UPOINT system  and NPAT recommending both phytotherapy and quercetin for men with organ specific and pelvic floor spasm domains of prostatitis.

Besides sexual pain, prostatitis can also lead to other sexual problems like low libido, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, or blood in the semen. Other supplements can help with sexual problems due to prostatitis such as pygeum and stinging nettle.

The Importance of Having Sex

You don’t want to avoid having sex or ejaculating due to pain, because some experts say that semen can accumulate in the prostate and lead to inflammation and worsening or prostatitis symptoms. It is important to ejaculate regularly. Aim for at least once a week to keep the prostate flushed out. It should be safe to have sex with your partner when you have prostatitis, but as some sexually transmitted diseases can be related to prostatitis, make sure your doctor rules out an STD.

Editor’s comment:

A lot of men have pain during ejaculation because of a pelvic disorder or chronic tension in the pelvis which can be overcome with the right form of physical therapy. Note that you should avoid kegel exercises as these may add to chronic pelvic tension. Supplements have also been shown in the studies to help with the pain during sex.